Part One:
Archetypal Reactions to Child Loss
Chapter One:
My Twice Lost Child
Reasons for
Telling...Duncan’s Childhood: A Shooting Star...Schizophrenia: The Star
Burns Out...Terrible Mother or Caretaker?...Chaos and Peace at Last...PAGE
1
Chapter Two:
Understanding the Archetype
The Child
Archetype... The Mother Archetype... The God Archetype... The Archetype of
Meaning... The Dark Side of Archetype....PAGE 10
Chapter Three:
How We Mourn: Themes, Phases, and a Myth
The Need to Know...
Unexpected and Unprepared... The Intensity of Our Reactions... Discovering
Phases in Women’s Mourning... Chaos: Destroyer and Informer... Time: How
Long Will it Take?... Changes in One’s Sense of Time... Rite of Passage: A
Time of Liminality... The Isis Myth: Weeping, Searching, Solitude and
Incubation, Nursing and Compassion, Reconstruction....PAGE 29
Chapter Four:
Grief in the Family: Understanding Differences
A Diversity of
Gifts...How Men Grieve...Couples Estranged...The Family as an Archetypal
System...Adolescence and the Loss of Innocence....PAGE 62
Chapter Five:
The Unlived Life: Fetuses and Infants
When No life Has Been
Lived: The Barren Woman... The Miscarriage... Sudden Infant Death
Syndrome... The Mortally Ill Child.....PAGE 95
Chapter Six:
The Long Illness and The Special Case of Aids
Anticipatory Grief:
From Fatal Diagnosis to Death...
Dealing with The
Mother and Nurse Archetypes... Ways of Facing the End: Conflicting Tasks...
The Special Case of Aids... The Outcast Archetype: Leprosy and AIDS...The
Homosexual Outcast... Virginia: Mother, Nurse and Mourner....PAGE 114 .
Chapter Seven:
Sudden and Violent Deaths: Accidents, Negligent Homicide, and Military
Casualties
Why Have Accidents?
Aristotle and the Myth of Balder...
Facing Fate...
Negligent Homicide: Kim’s Fate... A Plane Crash: Carmen’s Fate... Death in
the Military: Sacrifice of the Hero... Wars Without Support... Deaths in
Vietnam...World War I and World War II: Blue Stars Turn to Gold... Honoring
All Heroes....PAGE 136.
Chapter Eight:
Sudden and the Violent Death: Murder
Confessed Murderers
in a Senseless Robbery: Struggles with Criminal Justice...Archetypal
Justice: Orestes and The Furies...Cookie’s Story: Murderer and Mediatrix...Bluebeard
and the Part That Won’t Be Seen...
Murder in the
Family: Jennifer, Nelson and Colleen...Revenge or Forgiveness....PAGE 162.
Chapter Nine:
Suicide and Mental Illness,
Shock and Never
Knowing Why...Archetypal Underpinnings: From Participation Mystique to
Suicide...Atttitudes About Suicide...Illness or a Senseless Choice...Guilt,
Blame, and Shame of Suicide...Struggling with Mental Illness....PAGE 181
Part Two: Aids to
the Mourning Process
Chapter Ten:
Cleansing Shadow Elements
Typical Shadow
Elements: Anger and Coming to Spirituality...Guilt,
Shame...Entitlement...Going beyond Entitlement: The Path of Necessary
Suffering...Cleansing the Body: Archetypal Motifs in Soul/Body
Healing...From Cartesian Dualism to Mind/Body Connection...Holistic Healing
for Grieving Mothers... PAGE 193
Chapter Eleven:
Journaling, Dreams, and Writing Your Life Story,
Grieving Mothers’
Writing Samples...Starting a Journal...Therapeutic Writing
Techniques...Remembering and Recording Dreams...Writing Your
Psycho-Spiritual Biography: The Face You Show The World, Your Psychological
Self, Your Spiritual Life...PAGE 223
Chapter Twelve:
Finding A Myth to Live By
My Discovery of the
Myth I Was Living...Dwelling on the Significance of Antigone...Finding a New
Myth to Live by,,,The Elusinian Mysteries...The Demeter/Persephone
Myth...Archetypal Reactions in the Myth...The Mother/Daughter
Bond...Breaking the Earthly Bond...PAGE 250
Chapter Thirteen:
Creativity: Bringing Into Being
Creativity as
Repair...Keeping Connection through Images...Creating a Home for Your
Child...How Does My Child Want Me to Live...Creative Moves Towards
Transcendence...Living Creatively By Honoring Special Subjective
Experience...PAGE 267
Chapter Fourteen:
Connecting Our Inner and Outer Worlds
Synchronicity...Funerals and Mourning Rituals...Making a Sacred
Journey...Protest and Advocacy...Sharing and Connecting...More About
Forgiving...PAGE 290
Chapter Fifteen:
Living Symbolically: Transformative Aspects of the
Black Madonna and the Pieta
Becoming an Actor in
the Divine Drama...Seeking the Symbolic Life...The Black Madonna of
Einsiedeln...Discovering the Pieta...Archetypal Attitudes in the
Pieta...PAGE 313
Appendix I: An
Historical Perspective....Page i
Appendix II: Movies
about Grief and Reconciliation....Page xii
Appendix III: Music
for Mourning and Transformation....Page xvi
Appendix IV:
Reaching Out for Help....Page xxi